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My mom is trying to set me up ...

December 10th, 2008 at 04:57 am

On dates. Sigh and a LOL all in one on that one.

I'm young, really young. I don't necessarily think that my dating life is over, however, I have made the choice to be single. I am VERY happy with this choice right now. There is no one I am currently interested in dating, and if I were, I would want to take it at my own pace.

My mother, whether she is scared of being stuck with me forever or what, has decided to start scouting for "eligible" guys for me. At first, it was humorous. Now, it's getting almost annoying.

Her latest catch is a new teacher at her school. He is 30 and just into teaching (he isn't certified yet, he's degree is in finance). I know he is Spanish, and not much else about him. My mother started going on and on about him while I was helping her move last Friday. When I rolled my eyes at her, she gave me a look of defeat.

I want to look at her and scream "I'm HAPPY!" Seriously, I am. I don't want to date, and I certainly don't need my mother to scout out potential love interests. That's ... just weird. I've always been very independent. My mother has often, lovingly, called me her black sheep. It's true, I don't necessarily fit the mold of the family, but it's worked.

I think my mother is not only scared of the whole financial instabilities of being a single mom ... but I think she is secretly worried if I don't settle down soon, she won't get anymore grandkids. I have to laugh at the insanity of saying that out loud, but it's true. My brother is 22, and hasn't ever really dated a girl, let alone found "the one" and my sister is ten, so she better not even think about having kids for at least 15 more years, lol. I just wish my mother could see that I am happy. Happy with myself, happy to be single ... and certainly happy enough to know when I am ready to date.

And I swear, if she invites this man over for Christmas .. which I wouldn't put it past her ... I'm keeping the gift I bought her for myself.

4 Responses to “My mom is trying to set me up ... ”

  1. whitestripe Says:
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    lol. she should be happy you've given her a grandchild already!

  2. gamecock43 Says:
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    its a generation thing. Your mother was raised to believe women need to be married and married young. Just dont get caught up in her expectations- you only live once. And you will do this to your daughter one day.

  3. Joan.of.the.Arch Says:
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    I don't think it is an idea of your mother's generation unless she is about 130 years old. I'm old enough to be your mother and I would never fret that you need to be married, or need to "give me" grandchildren. I find thoughts like that to be bizarre. Heck, neither my own mother nor my grandmother ever communicated such a thing to me....Nah-- I am really glad to be married to the person a am married to, and I'm really happy we have raised child. But that doesn't mean that the same is best for my own child. Good grief, that is up to him to determine.

  4. M Says:
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    I know what you're talking about but I am a male and have no kids. I would be like your brother; 21 not dated a girl but more than happy to be single. This Christmas though she is trying to set me up, it's driving me crazy! I guess it's nice to know mothers are trying to setup both daughters and sons. AGGGGHHHH!

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