<< Back to all Blogs
Login or Create your own free blog
Layout:
Home > Child support update

Child support update

November 10th, 2006 at 06:34 pm

In response to a reader's question, I'm honestly not sure where I stand on the child support.

See, new guy has one of those "baby mama's" you read about. The kind that calls him up at all hours of the night asking for money. She called him and said she's being kicked out of her apartment and unless he can help her get a new one, the kids will be on the street. *This is where I ended it with new guy, for now ... I don't have time for that sort of drama*

See, my fear is ... I'll be that kind of woman. I don't want to wait every month hoping that the child support check is going to come in. I don't want to worry about how I am going to pay my bills, and to call her father crying. The fact that I ended a relationship with a guy I cared about b/c he was being milked by his ex fixes it for me even more.

Everyone in my family has faith that her father would pay ... but I don't yet. I don't have faith that he'll pay, and I am scared that I'll become dependent on him.

December 1st is the deadline I'm giving myself. I'll either file ... or write him out of our lives forever. I didn't realize it would hurt this much.

Posted in Julie | 4 Comments »

4 Responses to “Child support update”

  1. pjmama Says:
    November 10th, 2006 at 07:20 pm 1163186417
    1163186417

    That's a difficult place to be... I hope everything works out! Sometimes it's incredibly hard to be independent, especially when you've got someone depending on you, but keep your head up! Just remember that you can raise a child all on your own. Child support is there to remind us that it takes 2 to make a baby, and both parties are responsible. My father owes my mother, who was also a single mother, thousands upon thousands of dollars. She got on without the money, but it was in no way easy. She sacrificed a lot for us. When you think about it, the money is just money. I'm not sure what your situation is with Julie's father, but make sure she has a lot of support and love! I'm sure you'll be able to handle that just fine. If you need any help or support, all of us are here to help!

  2. miclason Says:
    November 10th, 2006 at 08:31 pm 1163190677
    1163190677

    ((hugs)) it IS difficult....I'm a single mom and, I didn't bother filing for child support for a lot of reasons...among them, I know the guy never has any money and he lives in a different country anyway, so I would probably have had to fight this in HIS country and, well, it was just too much of a hassle...plus, precisely because he's so far away, I didn't want money to get in the way between Ale and her dad....as it turned out, HE's the one that has gotten in the way, because he never bothers to call, or write....I just got Ale's first grades and, you know what? I'm not going to write or call him about it....he doesn't deserve to be part of this wonderful girl's life, since he cannot understand just how wonderful she is...his loss!

    Good luck with whatever you decide to do! (perhaps you could just set up your budget so that all Julie's expenses come out of your income and IF he ever gives something then you can put that in an account for her education?? -- that way, if the payments are irregular or stop coming, your "everyday" budget won't suffer and, you won't feel as dependent!)

  3. PRICEPLUS Says:
    November 11th, 2006 at 04:30 am 1163219416
    1163219416

    Go after the support but don't depend on it. You need to be strong and independent for your little one! My father always told my sisters never to depend on anyone to take care of them. They are all stroong independent women! I believe you are too! You will be successful!

  4. koppur Says:
    January 13th, 2007 at 03:22 pm 1168701734
    1168701734

    A little late to comment, but I just read your post. Remember that the child support money isn't about you; it's not x-support money. It's for Julie. Go for the child support, but don't depend on it. Pay for everything she needs on her own and open a special account for the mone you get for child support. Deposit the money in the account and save it as Julie's college fund. Good luck and stay strong!

Leave a Reply

(Note: If you were logged in, we could automatically fill in these fields for you.)
*
Will not be published.
   

* Please spell out the number 4.  [ Why? ]

vB Code: You can use these tags: [b] [i] [u] [url] [email]