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Creeped out

February 16th, 2009 at 07:36 pm

So, I don't know how many of you have heard about the latest girl from Florida who was apparently taken from her own bed .. but I'm officially creeped out.

Even though I don't necessarily live anywhere near where Jessica Lunsford was taken from, or near where the latest victim lived ... it SERIOUSLY creeps me out.

I can't help but wonder how many other times this happens, and what it takes for it to be "high profile" enough to hear about it if you don't live near the area that it happened. When Elizabeth Smart was taken, I think part of the reason it was on National news so quickly was because of how unbelievable it is.

This is the one time I don't mind that my 4 year old spends most nights in bed with me.

I think part of the reason it's making me worry so much is because this is really the first time I've lived on my own with Juliette. I have an alarm system, but it doesn't always ease my worries. The house across the street from ours is now in foreclosure, and the house two doors down is empty as the woman tries to decide if she wants to sell her father's old home. I feel vulnerable.

This week, I'm adding an extra lock on both front and back doors. I think it's just going to be a chain lock, I haven't reall decided, but I want it up just incase my daughter decides she wants to go for a late night walk or something.

I wish I could say I knew all my neighbors. There is one guy who honestly gives me the creeps when he walks by. And well, they usually say a mother's instinct are right. I don't know what it is about this guy, but he seems "off". He also likes to play with the kids in the neighborhood, and you don't want to lable someone just because you don't think it's normal, but well, I don't think it's normal for a grown man to play with little kids. That's weird, right?

I honestly remember growing up, in the same neighborhood, and my mom had us play outside. All the time. I don't feel comfortable letting Juliette play on the front porch most days.

8 Responses to “Creeped out”

  1. Broken Arrow Says:
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    I don't try to scare anyone, but when the topic comes up, I've always warned people against a "false sense of security" in their own comfort zone. Particularly in one's own home.

    That's because what we perceive as "safe" and "unsafe", and whether it objectively is or not are two different matters. We can feel unsafe in a safe environment (such as in normal, well-maintained airplane) and we can feel safe in an unsafe environment (some homes).

    What makes matters worse is the fact that, because we feel safe in certain comfort zones, we also do not spend perhaps the amount of time and effort needed to make sure that our security measures are indeed up to some reasonable standards. Again, the home typically lacks in that way as well.

    It's just something to think about. I'm glad that you're taking your safety serious though!

  2. Joan.of.the.Arch Says:
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    It could be a good idea to proceed with the additional lock for your doors. Isn't it more likely to successfully keep your child safely in than a kidnapper out? Kids slip out without notice more than kidnappers try to get in, I'd guess....This post nudged me to go lock my door. Smile

  3. Thrifty Ray Says:
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    Check with you local law enforcement to see if there is a listing of predators in your neighborhood. Not to worry, but to be informed. It is wise to be concerned, just try not to overreact. Extra locks, yes...staying up all night with a loaded gun...no. Hugs Amanda!

  4. whitestripe Says:
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    i think your instincts are right about the man. i dont like labelling people either, but you should not let your daughter play with someone if you do not feel comfortable about it. does he have children?

  5. tynana Says:
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    My children are adults now but when they were small there was a program where the fire/police department gave out little decals that could be placed on your chlid's window so in case of a emergency mainly a fire in the home the rescurers would know which room the child was located in. We sure would not do that now. I don't even want my grandchildren to put stickers on their window that would let a stranger know which room they were in. How sad.

  6. boomeyers Says:
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    Rays advice is good. Most law enforcement have websites where you can go and check on predators and felons. It lists where they live and what they were arrested for and when it happened. That way you know who the offenders are.
    Don't forget to check the windows too. There are all kinds of simple safety devices available at Home Depot and many are inexpensive.

  7. Amanda Says:
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    We have a listing of sexual predators, but most of the stories have been with predators who weren't listed.

    It's just scary to be worried in your own home.

  8. LuxLiving Says:
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    How would you feel about taking a ladies self-protection class? Often the local 'powers that be in domestic violence' offer them up relatively cheaply.

    Not all men who like to play with kids are predators. My stepdad is a coach and will kick a soccer ball around with the neighbor kids. He's an educator. BUT, if the guy you're seeing creeps you out then listen to your inner gut.

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